Research indicates that many of us think that being with someone is better than being alone. Relationships are a very important part of our lives; we are social creatures and enjoy the company of others. Relationships provide us with are much joy and at times, pain. It is when people struggle in relationships that they seek understanding.
DON’T WAIT – Research indicates that people wait way too long before seeking help. Don’t put it off! The longer you wait the increased possibility of continued damage to the relationship. (Gottman, 1999)
BE GENTLE - Treat your partner with love, acceptance and respect. Be gentle in your tone, facial expressions and verbal speech.
VALIDATE – Put yourself in your partner’s shoes. Express your genuine thankfulness for the relationship and affirm your strengths as individuals and as a couple.
TAKE IT EASY – Don’t take things so seriously. If the garbage wasn’t taken out for the 3rd week in a row, discuss it but choose to do it with ease and a light heart instead of blaming and using words like “always and never”. These are irrational and damaging to a relationship.
EDIT YOURSELF – As couples become more comfortable with each other they have a tendency to say the first things that come to their mind. Think about what you are going to say before you say it and how it might be perceived by your partner. (Gottman, 1999)
SEX – Have sex on a regular basis. Make it a priority in your life and relationship. Research indicates couples who have sex frequently and arguments infrequently are happier.
It seems that relationships are what create the most happiness in our lives as well as most struggles. We can give you the tools you need to get through these difficult times. Get help now don’t wait until it’s too late. Your persistence, determination and motivation can make the difference. Contact Us!
About Us
- Kathlene B. LaCour and Craig S. Judd
- Passages Behavioral Health Services was founded out of need to service mentally ill, co-occurring, correctional clients seeking a second chance. Our 40 years of clinical experience has prepared us to do this work which includes providing case management, Community Living Suppports (CLS), clinical assessment, treatment planning and more. Passages Behavioral Health also manages re-entry housing for this population know as the Passages House. We provide a service that not only bridges folks to another chance but helps maintain their progress in the community.
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